Life – a perceptive
If everybody is satisfied with himself, there would be no heroes.
(Mark Twain)
Every one of us can’t be heroes. There should be somebody on the foot-path to clap when the real heroes come. Let us clap.
After the game is over - both the king and pawn go into the same box.
In our lives, all most all of us, during a span of over sixty years, would have come across so many incidents, situations and instances. This article is an attempt to recall, recap and remember a few of such common truths and characteristics observed by me: I am sure that we would have come across these types of persons. It may be among your colleagues, relatives, friends, superiors, subordinates and even your customers.
Fear of rejection: Negative thinking always breeds negative results. If you think you can, you can. If you think that you can’t, you can’t. Either way you are correct. Be positive and proceed confidently, without any fear of failure or rejection.
Acceptance of our view: We feel that all others should concur with us. If they defer with us, we get annoyed. Give equal opportunities to others and allow them to express their views. This leads to better understanding and fruitful achievements. It is a good policy to acknowledge and appreciate others and their nature of work.
Management of people: More or less it is as good as accepting others’ view point. But it is always better to make the other person feel important. It doesn’t tantamount to ego boosting, but creates an amicable and congenial atmosphere. I know one friend, who used to insult, criticize and spit venom on the waiter or steward in any bar, hotel visited by him along with some friends. He used to snub them for no reason, causing embarrassment to other guests.
Selfish approach: Greed, avarice, selfishness and envy are the worst traits that should be avoided by us. One need not be very generous to give away all his belongings, but should not crave for things at the cost of others.
Talking about things which are important to us personally: I heard many people doting on their children, grand children, about their achievements, qualifications, wealth and many other things, unmindful of the fact that other people like them or not. This needs to be avoided.
People hear only things that they understand: Some people simply lend their ears to others, though the matter is beyond their comprehension. While talking about something, we should make sure that others are able to follow us, and they are not getting bored. It is better to stop talking when the listeners show any signs of discomfort and boredom.
Building trust: People trust us and form an indelible opinion, when once they start trusting us. Particularly, most of the executives have this trait. They carry on some sort of opinion good or bad on some of their subordinates and refuse to amend such opinions later.
We often do things which may look odd: We do certain things with explicit expectations and finally end up with implicit implications. Sometimes, we wonder why we’ve done like that and start repenting after some damage or adverse affect.
We behave in a petty, peevish and queer manner: I know a group of University Professors behaving in a petty and queer manner, when they were sponsored for a foreign trip by a MNC. They behaved in a very silly manner, unworthy of their status. They were craving for more drinks and snacks shouting at the air hostess. Finally when they attended a symposium hosted by the MNC, most of them were sleeping and snoring during that seminar. Imagine how awkward it looks for the other delegates and to the host who sponsored them.
We wear a social mask: Most of us are proud of our designation or rank. We refuse to come out of that mask even in informal meetings. They even behave in such an authoritative, over bearing and haughty manner, even after their retirement. Get rid of your status anxiety and come out of your social mask, mingle with people and try to mix with them at least now.
The above points are only a few, which define our lifestyle. All these points have been churned out of my real life experience, after observing a number of people.
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